why you shouldnt be super mabait

i was talking to a friend earlier. i cant say old friend because friendship for us is actually new. so i say friend. a very good friend.
apparently, when we were not yet friends, i told him:

SOBRA KANG MABAIT.

and you know what? he has this former ex-gf who happens to be a friend of mine, too. and youll ask me, why did they broke up? yes, because it was a long distance relationship and there were many reasons that called for a halt in the relationship and one of them was, my good friend said:

SOBRA SIYANG MABAIT.

and he said: its like dejavu. haha. i think, maybe.
and then i just thought, what was wrong with being sobrang mabaet? they never had a single fight, no arguments at all. even when the guy admitted he made mistakes, the girl was like, very forgiving. thats very mabait right. so, when did being SUPER MABAIT became a problem why would-be relationships never happened and why actual relationships didnt worked out? and so the ever poetic me rationalized:

dont you think there was something wrong with that? it means hindi kayo nagoopen ng totoo niyong feelings sa isat isa. - regarding the no-argument, no fighting thing

and with that, she doesnt want to hurt you by saying what she really feels. she's hurting, but she wants to keep it to herself.

maybe youre afraid to hurt the other person kaya you choose not to say what you really wanted to say. you become very careful with your words and how you deliver them. you become very conscious with what you do and how you do them. and by being such, you erase the YOU in the relationship. you become another person. not a person who loves somebody, but a person who is mabait which means to say someone who doesnt want to hurt another.

pero sometimes, we need to feel a little pain because it will remind us that were human. capable of loving, capable of being hurt.capable and strong enough to feel pain, and to bear with it.
when i told my friend that he was super mabait, we werent in a relationship, so i guess it didnt matter, really. but with his ex, i think it did a lot. the relationship got boring, there was no intensity. how will there be intensity eh there were no verbalizations diba? some would take advantage of persons being sobrang bait. but im glad he didnt.

now, if you were like me, who wished all her life to be mabait, sometimes being salbahe has its own perks, right? people want mabait persons, pero they will get boring eventually. salbahe persons on the other hand brings excitement to other person's lives but nobody really likes a salbahe person diba? and i dont want my life to be boring and repetitive. but cheerios to all mabait people in the earth! i admire you all for being naturally endowed with those powers. pero i admit, and if i wont admit this, i am not being honest.

it all boils down to this one:
we are never contented with what we have.
think about it. i already did.

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